Lay on one side with one leg extended and the other bent. With one hand, gently separate and hold your labia to the sides, and apply a tiny drop of lube to your exposed clitoris. Then, with the opposite hand, begin tapping gently on it.
Benefit
Tapping, instead of rubbing, can cause quick and intense sensations for those who find direct stimulation too intense.
Bonus
Tapping harder or faster will create different sensations. See how long you can last or ask your partner to take part in the fun.
Holding a hand mirror, sit in a comfortable chair with one leg propped up on the bed or couch. Now that you can check out the goods, venture away from your sensitive clitoris to discover new erogenous zones. Explore the opening, inside, and back wall of your vagina with your fingers, pressing and changing pressure until you find something that feels right.
Benefit
With this new point of view, you may learn a new way to ring your bell, which can help alleviate the frustration many women feel when they can come in only one position.
Bonus
Try it with your favorite sex toy or your man, entering you from the Seashell or Butter Churner position.
Illustrated guide for douching your rectum, how to properly get an enema in your own shower. Get your ass clean for fucking, fisting, dildoes, rimming, anal play.
An illustrated guide on how to properly clean your ass to avoid accidents during anal sex. Perfect to share with bottoms, and also with tops who want to educate others. Not only for guys or gays, everyone should try this!
There’s no doubt in my mind that our views on anal sex have progressed greatly since the episode of Sex and the City episode — back when the great debate was to go anal or not.
Many couples are curious about anal sex, but worried that it will be painful. In addition to making anal sex more comfortable, using a lubricant is helpful for any type of anal penetration, since the anus does not naturally lubricate and discomfort or even tearing may result.
The best kind of lubricant for anal sex is typically a silicone-based formula. Whether it’s a penis, a strap-on dildo or some other type of anal sex toy, silicone-based formulas are designed to last longer and offer more slipperiness for helping with penetration, and can be applied to the penis, anal opening and/or toys. Just be sure to check that the toy you’re using isn’t made of silicone, in which case a water-based lubricant is best. Silicone-based lubricants can break down silicone sex aids, making them unsafe for use.
Remember, if you’re using a water-based lubricant, you may need to reapply it a few times, since the body easily absorbs these formulas. Silicone-based formulas tend to last longer. Most importantly, make using a lubricant fun and give yourself a chance to get used to it.
Oil-based lubricants are not as commonly used, as they tend to be thicker and messier than other formulas, though some like them for their all-natural ingredients. Oil-based lubricants are unsafe to use with condoms, diaphragms or other latex contraceptives or toys, since they can break down the materials and increase the risk of pregnancy or STI transmission. This includes products such as baby oil, olive oil, and body cream.
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1. It’s a chance to explore and act out new fantasies with your lover.
2. It’s one way to get in touch with your body and learn more about how it works.
3. Both you and your partner have been feeling curious.
4. It’s naughty and you’ve been bad!
5. You can’t get pregnant from anal sex.
6. Two words: Prostate stimulation
7. It’s a way to show your partner you love every part of him or her.
8. It can help you replace longstanding negative feelings about your butt with positive ones.
9. You’d like to mimic your favorite adult film.
10. You’d like to give your vagina the day off.
Of course, there are also reasons why anal sex might not be for you–or why it isn’t for you just yet. However, if you have an interest in anal sex, this guide may be the road map you’ve been looking for in your quest for judgment-free, sex positive, accurate information about safer, pleasurable anal sex.
It’s ironic: the couples who have the closest, soul-mate connection and the best relationships often have the worst sex lives. Why? Because the same wonderful intimacy that makes us yearn to merge as ‘one’, obliterates desire.
Nothing kills sexual chemistry quicker than becoming best friends.
Here’s how to keep the intimacy but rescue the sex!
Almost anyone who’s ever been in love senses the point when the relationship subtly but significantly shifts from you both being lovers, to being a couple in love.
Lust morphs into romance, torrid kissing gets replaced by intense eye-gazing, greedily devouring each other’s bodies with your eyes turns into examining each other’s faces.
Your heart might soar when you reach the level of intimacy that you hear your partner describe you as their best friend, but it can be the kiss of death for your sex life.
Despite films like My Best Friend’s Wedding, most of us really don’t want to make love to our friends. It would feel incestuous, like having sex with a sibling, not to mention highly embarrassing.
Genuine closeness is a turn off erotically
One of the world’s leading experts in the ‘intimacy vs sex’ problem is Jack Morin, author of The Erotic Mind
Morin and others (also watch Esther Perel’s Ted Talk) are at the forefront of exploring why closeness destroys rather than enhances sex (which we’ve always assumed).
The reason appears to be this simple: we find ‘separateness’ far more attractive.
We need to see our partners as individuals, people who are their own person rather than one-half of ourselves, in order to fancy them.
Become ‘emotionally fused’, to the point where you lose your sense of where you finish and they start, and you don’t just lose your identity, you lose interest.
Familiarity and comfort are welcome bedfellows for relationships but they’re lethal for your love life.
Different is good
Healthier, is what’s called ‘differentiation’: you’re emotionally connected but you accept you’re two separate people who don’t have to agree on everything, do everything together or like the same things.
A crucial ingredient to having good long-term sex is novelty: if you’ve become matching bookends with the same tastes and views, that’s hard to achieve.
If you think the same, you’ll both come up with the same ideas and dismiss ones that don’t appeal instantly, knowing your partner won’t be attracted either.
Differentiated couples embrace their differences and push each other out of their comfort zones, challenging their partner to try new things and see things from a different point of view.
You have to take risks to keep lust alive
The other paradox is the more you value your relationship, the more difficult it is to sustain passion.
If you have everything to lose, you’re far less likely to take risks – like reveal that dodgy turn on that does it for you every time! The reason why ‘first time’ sex is such a turn on is because it’s unfamiliar to us.
Unfamiliarity makes us both anxious and excited – and the resulting euphoria is addictive!
Ever had to make a speech where you’re nearly throwing up beforehand but have to be dragged away from the microphone once you’ve been up there ten minutes?
Spill the secret stuff!
We need to let our partners see what’s really going on inside those murky depths.
Now I don’t know about you, but there’s some pretty kinky stuff in my murky depths, so I’m presuming there’s some in yours as well. Instead of shying away from this side of ourselves, the secret appears to be to welcome it. Reveal that naughty side. The not so lady-like or hugely politically incorrect you.
Sides of you, even you find uncomfortable.
This works wonders for your sex life (it feels risky, edgy, dangerous – all of which make us feel aroused).
Having the guts to be yourselves and ask for things knowing you won’t be judged is the key to fantastic long-term sex.
But I like being best friends!
Course you do!
But I’m not telling you to stop being friend just to remember that friendship might by lovely but so is sex.
Be best friends out of bed and erotic adventurers in it!
Some experts say if you do anal sex ‘properly, it won’t hurt. I say even if you do it correctly, the urge to say ‘Owwww! That bloody hurt!” will strike you at times.
The anal sphincter muscles are used to pushing things out, not taking things in, so you literally have to retrain your bottom.
But while it’s uncomfortable some of the time, it shouldn’t be really painful. If it is, you’ve rushed into it or you’re a bad fit (too small bottom with too big penis!)
Ironically, it will sometimes feel most uncomfortable while the penis is shallow.
That’s because it’s passing through two different sets of sphincter muscles which are determined to guard against intruders.
The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system, meaning you’re (kind of) in control of it.
The internal sphincter is about an inch further in and it’s controlled by the autonomic nervous system (it’s controlled by your body, not by you).
You can help relax both sets by bearing down (imagine you’re doing a big poo and push out).
Once the penis is through both sets of muscles and deeper, it should feel more comfortable.
BUT don’t rush the process to put it inside: take it slowly and while it may feel uncomfortable, it’s not unbearably painful. Barge right in and you’ll be hitting the ceiling.
Once you relax into it any pain should subside and the pleasure factor should start to kick in.
Never EVER attempt penetration without first inserting fingers or anal toys – the rectum needs time to get used to things inside it!
You can do this with your partner but you can also do it solo.
If you’re keen to try anal intercourse, prepare by gently inserting a finger into your anus for a minute or two every time you have a shower.
Yes, you will feel mighty weird doing it the first few times but it works.
Insert a fingertip and feel around, identifying both sets of anal sphincter muscles (the external and internal – more about those later) and squeeze the muscles around your finger.
If you’re with a partner, get them to apply lots of good quality lube to both the pad of their finger and the outside of your anus (you MUST use good quality anal lube – thick, slippery and heavy duty – to make anal intercourse comfortable), then massage in a gentle, circular motion.
Wait until your muscles relax, then get them to insert their finger in a little.
Once they’ve been doing this over a few sessions, get them to insert two fingers.
The next stage is to use a butt plug: a small toy that you put inside and leave in while they give you oral sex or stimulate you with their hands or fingers.
Plugs get the rectum used to relaxing around an inserted object.
Glass dildos work well anally because they slide in easily and you can start small and work up to the same penis size as the person penetrating.
Why not go straight for the real thing? Because the dildo isn’t likely to get carried away and start manically thrusting before your partner is ready!
