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When it comes to anal play, there’s a lot of information about toys that are fun to use. Unfortunately, there isn’t much about what not to use. Inspired by Ducky Doolittle’s Tantus 2.0 class, I thought this was an important subject to cover and wanted to share some thoughts about safe anal stimulation with you.

Tantus Plugs Many toys look perfect for anal play; however there are many aspects to consider when choosing toys for anal stimulation. Choosing the right toy is important for anal stimulation and can often times be the difference between a fun and erotic experience and a bad one.

One of the most common toys used by beginners is anal beads. Although these are inexpensive and look like fun, they are not the best choice. Anal beads tend to be simply round balls on a string and there can be a few risks involved using them. For instance, the string can come untied, leaving a bead inside of you. Also, after being used, the string can’t be properly cleaned and will harbor bacteria. Also, because anal beads are just that beads which can be a bit painful when inserted and removed. Because they are blunt rather than tapered, they force the sphincter muscles to open suddenly. Often times, this can cause pressure, discomfort or even a slight pain when they are removed.

A much better choice that gives the same sensations as anal beads is the Ripple. Designed by Tantus, it is made from pure silicon and the beads are elliptical. Being made from silicone the Ripple is just like your silicone cookware and can be completely sterilized after you play. Also, the beads are elliptical. This allows the beads to gently open your sphincter muscle and then it closes around the neck between each bead. Because the neck has a bit of girth to it, your muscles don’t clamp down and tight once the bead is in allowing your muscles to stay slightly open and ready for the next bead to be slipped it. With this type of toy, you can choose to insert a couple beads or all of them. They even offer a small and large version of the Ripple for both new and experienced users.

Another mistake that’s often made when choosing a toy for anal play that has a blunt head. Although some may appear to be perfect for prostate massage, toys designed like this can cause a vacuum inside your rectum causing pain or injury when it’s removed. A much better choice is toys that have a tapered head. Not only are they easier to insert, the difference in diameter doesn’t create suction while you’re playing. There are some toys such as the Prostate Health Vibrator, by Tantus, that appears to have a flat head, however there is a slope along the edges that makes it totally safe for anal play. A close inspection of your will reveal whether it’s a true flat surface or not. If you can’t tell from the image you’re looking at online while you shop, Google the toy and search images to get a clear view of the toy you are considering.

When using a toy, be sure that it doesn’t have sharp edges or seams. Some toys have seams that are left behind from manufacturing and are not smoothed down properly. While this doesn’t pose a huge risk when used vaginally, they can damage the thin lining of your rectum by tearing or scratching mucus membrane.

Always make sure that the toy you are using for anal penetration has a flared base. The rectum will suck a toy in while you are playing. Don’t believe me? Slide your finger in and notice how the sphincter draws it into further, the same thing happens with your toy. Toys without a flared base pose the risk of being sucked in all the way making removal next to impossible. A flared base stops at the outer sphincter and acts like a stopper.

Another thing to consider when choosing an anal toy is the material that they are made out of. Some toys are made from PVC, rubber or even jelly. While they may be inexpensive, they pose a few risks. Toys made from material such as these have moving molecules inside of them and the chemicals seep out through the pores. This is why some toys will have a strong odor when you open their box. Many times, people’s sensitive tissue has a chemical reaction to them causing a burning sensation and even chemical burns. I always suggest choosing silicone for all of your anal pleasure. Silicone is non-porous and doesn’t have moving molecules. They have neither smell nor taste, are completely body safe, and bacteria can’t hide and grow in them. Also, silicone is easy to clean up. It can be washed with dawn dish soap, boiled or even placed on the top rack of your dishwasher to be cleaned. However, when washing your toys in the dishwasher, don’t use detergent because it can leave behind a light film causing you to have an adverse reaction. If you adore the texture or feeling of jelly toys, I suggest placing a condom over your toy before using it anally. A condom will protect you from the chemicals and will protect your toy from getting bacteria down into its pores.

Please, never use household items inside of you. In the heat of the moment it may seem like a good idea. However, they are simply not safe. Tubes of tooth paste, shaving cream cans, the handle of a brush, bottles, or anything else you might find lying around truly can harm your body for various reasons. Sharp edges, lack of a proper base, creating suction and other issues can occur.

Hubby and I both want you to be safe while you explore the pleasures of anal stimulation. A trip to the emergency room is something that we deeply desire for you to never have to experience. Choosing toys that are safe is the most important thing you can do to avoid this. Although many toys are marketed for anal play, they’re simply not safe. Please if you ever have a question about a toy, reach out to us or another trusted source to help you decided if it’s safe. There are many sex toy stores online that have a wealth of information to help you make an informed decision and even more sex toy reviewers and educators on Twitter that are always happy to help with any question you may have. Of course, I realize that it may be embarrassing to tweet about sex toys. The DM messaging system is a great way to avoid this or simply search for sex educators online and send them an email through their site’s system. I know that, like me, they’re always happy to help and answer any questions that you may have.

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I’ll never forget the first time Hubby and I were intimate. He was amazing, but that’s not what stuck in my memory for years after; it was what he said.

While giving him fellatio, my tongue found its way near his anus, the next thing I knew he was whispering “oh yes, please” and he asked me to put my finger inside of him. I was freaked out, to say the least. I never did as he asked and for years after that night I avoided that area of his body at all costs.

After I began to loosen up sexually I started to realize the value that there is in self sexual exploration. Learning how our bodies react to various types of stimulation is an important part of discovering our sexuality. Looking back on it now, I’m happy that Hubby explored his own body and figured out what he like and how he liked it long before we started our journey into pegging and prostate massage.

That’s right, not only for women, men can also benefit greatly from self exploration and masturbation. It’s common for men to masturbate as young teens and throughout their lives. However that’s not the only area that can be explored. The prostate is a highly erogenous zone that deserves exploring also. All too often, there are perceived stigmas that accompany any type of male anal exploration. It’s unfortunate that with all the scientific information showing the benefits and enjoyment of prostate massage, that anal exploration is still thought of as something only experienced between two men. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Exploring yourself before introducing this type of stimulation to your partner can help to ease these perceptions. Also it has other benefits. Suck as, becoming comfortable with your body and overcoming any awkwardness that you may feel.

Hubby discovered his prostate as a young teen and has enjoyed self stimulation for many years before I opened up to anal play. Here’s his advice to those who are new to male anal sex.

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~Become acquainted with your body~

Hubby suggests taking time to become acquainted with your body in a relaxed environment during a time when you know there won’t be any interruptions. It’s always nice to start off by jumping in the shower or taking a warm bath first. Not only for hygiene purposes, the warm water also helps relax your body. In your private area lock the door and dim the lights to create a relaxed and safe environment; try turning on the radio. Stretch out on the bed and find a comfortable position. Pillows can be help support your body or placed underneath you knees to help make access to your anal area easier.

Once you’re comfortable, take some deep breaths. Deep breathing is an important part of relaxing your mind and body; it even helps relax your anal sphincter. Take your time, there’s no rush. After you’re relaxed, begin by gently massaging your butt. Start off at the top of your cheeks and slowly work your way down. If you have a hand held mirror, try using it to watch your anus during this process. This will help you become familiar with how your body reacts to to the stimulation. You’ll notice your anus relaxing and loosing up as you massage. Stretch your cheeks apart as you massage to help the outer sphincter relax even more. There’s no right or wrong way to do this. The goal is to relax and become acquainted with how your body reacts to being touched.

After you feel comfortable, move on to massaging directly around and on your anus. Take your time and enjoy these sensations. Don’t feel like you have to move quickly. In one session it’s completely acceptable to stop at this point, there’s no rule that says you have to move any further.

*Hint* Try using a bit of lube to help your fingers glide over and around your anus and perineum area.

~Exploring penetration~

When exploring penetration for the first time, it’s always best to start out with your finger. Wearing a glove will make insertion smoother and aid in cleanliness. Another key to ensuring that your experience is enjoyable is using lots of lube. Water based lubricant is usually the best choice and Hubby swears by Liquid Silk.

Warm yourself up by massaging your anus; don’t forget to take deep breaths. Deep breathing truly helps to relax both the external and internal sphincters. When you’re ready, slowly slip in one finger. Notice how your muscles contract both externally and internally. Hubby suggests sitting for a few moments while breathing deep, taking time to relax before moving on. At any time, if your exploration hurts, stop immediately. Nothing about this process should be painful; however, a slight burning sensation is normal.

When you’re comfortable, begin to slowly move your finger in and out. You can experiment with moving your finger around in circles, inserting it deep, or even reaching around to find your p-spot. As you relax, you may want to try slowly inserting another finger. Take your time and help your sphincter muscles relax. Relaxing is a key to having a truly pleasurable experience.

~Using Toys~

As you explore your prostate and anal sex, you may want to try using toys. When choosing a toy, there are a few things to take into consideration. First and foremost, be sure that your toy has a flared base to keep it from slipping up into your rectum. Also, to help your toy stay in while you play, be sure that it has a long tapered neck. Necks that are to short tend to pop out while you play.

The number one toy that I suggest for beginners is the Small Silk by Tantus. Its two finger size and slender slope is ideal for anal virgins. Made from pure silicone, it’s easy to sterilize making it safe for anal play. However it’s not made to stay in by its self while you play.

Butt plugs are designed to say in while you play. They keep the sphincter open and can be very useful as a warming up tool for pegging play latter. Hubby adores his B.S. is Nice Capsule; from ThatPositon. It works great to warm him up, gives him a full feeling during sex and also works well to hit his prostate.

Prostate Massagers are designed to apply stimulation directly to the prostate gland with their curved shaft. The often come as vibrators for added p-spot stimulation. Rocks-Off has Hubby’s favorite; Cheeky-Boy. With a bulberouse shaft and a perineum massage built in along with it’s perfect shape; this toy gets a lot of use at our house.

~Hubby’s Last Thoughts~

Hubby’s #1 piece of advice is to go slow and enjoy yourself. When starting out and warming up, what Hubby enjoys the most is having a finger or small toy sitting shallow inside of him as he does kegeal grips; the tightening sensation around something is highly stimulating.

Use lots of lube. There is never such a thing as too much lube. Massaging around your anus, paying close attention to the lower area of your anal rim, will help to relax your external sphincter and reduce the stretching feeling.

Choose the right position for you. Some positions feel better than others; Hubby suggests trying with one leg propped up on a pillow or rolled over on your left side. There is no wrong or right position. Trying different angles can make things a lot more pleasurable.

There shouldn’t be any stigma associated with exploring your prostate or anal sex. Lots of women enjoy anal sex, why shouldn’t men too. Their bodies are wired the same. Very similar to the female G-spot the prostate and anus are highly erogenous zones. Filled with nerves, stimulation is not only enjoyable it can produce an orgasm unlike anything you’ve experience before. It’s true, I promise.

Exploring your body alone or with your lover, it’s common to feel nervous the first few times. Creating the proper environment and starting out with other types of stimulation will help you relax and go with the flow of the enjoyment. If you’re experimenting with a partner, anal rimming during oral sex is always a great way to warm things up.

Hubby and I both wish you the best of luck on your journey. We hope that you will take time to explore your body and become comfortable with your sexuality. Most of all, enjoy yourself. Remember there is no wrong or right way to enjoy any type of kinky pleasure.

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The sexual act of anal penetration is generally misunderstood. Despite the fact that one out of every four women has engaged in anal intercourse, the practice remains taboo.

Many women are nervous to try anal sex because of the many myths and misconceptions surrounding the practice. Let’s take a look at these myths and uncover the truth.

Myth #1 Anal Sex is Only for Homosexuals

That’s absolutely not true. Simply another option for sexual gratification, many heterosexual couples enjoy anal sex on a regular basis. In fact, anal sex has nothing at all to do with sexual identity. A recent study found that 44% of straight men under 50 have had anal sex at least once in their lives.

Myth #2 Anal Sex is Unnatural

Considering that even today many states still have sodomy laws on record, it’s no wonder that anal sex is seen as unnatural. However most of these laws were pushed forward by mainstream religion. Anal sex has been around for centuries and is viewed as acceptable in many cultures. For instance, at the famous Khajurao temples there are beautiful sculptures depicting anal pleasures. In other cultures, women engage in anal sex for pleasure while protecting their virginity for future marriage.

Ultimately, you must decide for yourself what is or isn’t natural. If you’re uncomfortable with any sexual act, don’t do it! You are in charge of what you do sexually.

Myth #3 Anal Sex is Dirty

Early in our childhood we are taught that the anus is dirty and shouldn’t be touch. However with daily hygiene, the anus is as clean as other parts of your body. However, like other parts of the body, the anus contains bacteria. With a little bit of care while playing and good common sense there’s nothing to be concerned about. However, there are a few precautions which you can take to make sure everything is clean while you play; such as, using a condom or an anal douche.

Myth #4 Anal Sex is Painful

If anal sex causes these issues you are doing it wrong. The key to pleasurable anal sex is relaxation and lots of lubrication. Relaxing your external sphincter will make anal penetration easier and more pleasurable; a slight pressure as you relax is common. Also, because the anus doesn’t create natural lubrication, use lots of water based lube to make things more pleasurable. If you learn the proper techniques before you begin experimenting, you may find anal sex enjoyable.

Myth #5 Anal Sex can be Harmful

According to Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, author of “What Your Mother Never Told You About Sex,” anal sex doesn’t cause hemorrhoids, fissures or even tears; under normal circumstances. However, using lube to reduce friction is a must. Also, contrary to popular belief, semen or sperm isn’t harmful to your rectum either.

Others believe that anal sex will make their anus loose leading to inconstancy later in life; untrue. Learning to control the sphincter is helpful not only for anal sex but also when having a bowl movement.

Myth #6 Women Don’t Like It

It’s a common thought that anal sex is only enjoyable for men. Anal sex does take a learning curve; a few times of trying to adjust the angle of penetration, relaxing and speed of thrusting to figure out what you like. Also during the first few moments of penetration, it’s common to feel some pressure. This slight discomfort is well worth the orgasm that often follows.

The anus is full of nerve receptors that also feed the G-spot. Many women report being able to experience a G-spot orgasm, or even a full pelvic orgasm, from anal sex alone.

Myth #7 There’s No Difference Between the Anal Sex and PIV Sex

Thinking that anal sex feels the same as PIV sex for your partner is a misconception. I asked Hubby if it feels different and he said, “Oh, yes.” He described my vagina as being stretchy and full of folds that give varying friction depending on where he’s at inside of me. My rectum, on the other hand, he described as feeling deep, long and velvety smooth; a complete sensation all its own.

Myth #8 I’m Way Too Small

The rectum is a tube which collapses and stretches to accommodate what’s inside of it; it’s not a stretchy pouch like the vagina. Think about the size of your large poop, compared to that I’m sure that your anus will easily stretch enough to accommodate your fellow.

Myth #9 Anal Sex Causes Aids or STD’s

This is absolutely wrong. If both partners are STD free, it’s impossible to contract AIDS. If this is your fear, please educate yourself about the source of AIDS and other STD’s.

When it comes to anal sex, education is your friend. Learning about the different techniques, tips and tricks can be the difference between loving it and hating it. Try to open yourself up to trying new things and take it slow. I’m sure that you’ll find anal sex isn’t as bad as you thought.

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Enjoying anal sex is definitely a pleasure that takes a bit of a learning curve. Listening to your body and communication with your lover are a must. Also, I can’t stress enough how important going slowly, relaxing and using lots of lube are to your fun. Another key to enjoying anal sex is the position you play in.

For the beginner, there are several positions that are easier for penetration and can also make things funner all around.

Missionary – The original man on top position for PIV sex. With her bottom tilted upward, her little hole is exposed and easy for him to access. With her legs folded back towards the shoulders, this is a great position for those who like deep penetration or if he has a shorter penis.

You can also try these variations of the traditional Missionary position.

Upright Missionary – With her on the back, he sits up on his knees between her legs. She bends her knees and rest her feet on his chest. In this position, his hands are free to explore her lady bits or breasts. It’s also fun for men who like a good view.

Missionary L – In the same manner as the Upright Missionary, in this position, her legs are straight in this position rather than resting on his chest. Lying in this position her torso and rectum straightens out, making penetration a bit easier. This position is also good for those who like shallow penetration since he can control the depth easily.

CowGirl – the typical woman on top for PIV sex. With her straddling him, this is a good position for beginners because she can control the angle, depth and pace. While she controls it all, his hands are free to explore and give her extra stimulation. This is also a good position to prolog your play, since a man’s ejaculation reflexes slow down when he’s on his back.

Froggie – A fun variation of Cowgirl, in the position she’s crouched down on her feet straddling him. Taking the strain off her knees she can now ride his rod more vigorously. I’ve found that this position works a bit easier when I can reach the headboard or wall to balance against.

Spooning – Especially comfortable for anal beginners, with both partners on their sides facing in the same direction, penetration is natural and easy. Also, lying in this position, thrusting is gentler and slower. With lots of body contact, this position lets your hands be free to explore and caress each other. It’s also a great position for those who like to use a vibrator while they play since there’s full access to her vulva.

As Spooning becomes comfortable and she wants more, it’s easy to move into the Spoon & Fork position. With one of his leg between hers, wrap yourselves together. He’ll find that thrusting with gusto is much easier in this position.

Doggie Style – Oh yes the beloved Doggie Style is a great position for anal sex beginners. With her on all fours, this position is extremely versatile. Since she can angle herself differently, finding the right variation for smooth penetration is easy. After she’s warmed up, Doggie Style lets him thrust deep and hard. At the same time, in this position she can take control and slowly move herself on his rod. Men love this position because it’s easy to see and his hands are free to explore her ass.

Remember, there’s never a right or wrong way to a sexual position. All positions can be adapted to accommodate your needs, body size, flexibility, comfort, personal preferences, gender or sexual orientation. Sexual positions aren’t about finding the correct way. It’s about exploring with your partner and finding what’s right for you. The joy is in the journey, not in the perfection.

For me, anal sex is a great experience. Explore and find the pleasures that it may hold for you too.

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Wiki-anal oral sex google imageIf you’re apprehensive about anal sex; you’re not alone. Thousands of women are nervous about trying it. Even more have vowed to never try it again after a bad experience.

Often times, anal sex is thought of as dirty, painful or awkward at the best. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Anal sex can be a highly erotic sexual pleasure with the right approach.

Hygiene

Hygiene is a simple fix. If you have normal firmed bowel movements simply washing with close attention to your bottom should do the trick. For a better cleaning anal douching is an effective choice; visit my article for more about anal douching. Another option is having your partner wear a condom during anal sex. With a condom, clean up is easy in case of an accident.

Warming Up

The number one thing to help you get in the mood for anal sex is warming up your bottom. A sensual booty massage is a great way to help get your bottom relaxed and longing for more attention. Butt plugs are also a dandy little tool. Even the smallest of plug’s work great to relax your anal entrance and reduce the cringe of penetration latter.

To warm things up even more, there are a few intimate tricks that work wonders too. Such as, try using a small vibrator or even a finger to stimulate the tight little hole. Even more erotic is anilingus or anal rimming. During oral sex, visiting down bellow with the tongue and everywhere in-between is a sure way to get ready for more play. Even having a vaginal orgasm before anal sex will make things easier for back door play.

The nitty gritty of anal sex.

The first rule of anal penetration is lube, lube and more lube.

With a generous dab of lube on your little hole and his rod well lubed up, it will slip in easier and smoother. Go slow and have him stop once he’s just a bit inside of you. Breathe and try to relax your muscles; don’t let him move yet.

After a few moments, have him pull back out and re-lube up your bottom and his rod.

Going back in will be a bit easier this time.

However, once again only allow him to go in a little ways and stop. Think about relaxing and take some deep breaths. When you feel comfortable begin to move your hips and enjoy the feeling of him inside of you. After your at ease, allow him to take control and have fun.

Be sure to keep the lube close at hand and have him reapply when needed.

Add extra spice to your anal sex with a clitoral vibe or by using a toy vaginally.

Being intimate in new ways is always a rocky road. Although it may be awkward, exploring new things adds a new dimension to your intimacy and is well worth the journey.

For me personally, I’ve embraced ‘Greek Love’ and enjoy it as much, if not more, than vaginal sex alone. Anal orgasms are some of the best I’ve ever experienced.

I hope these tips help you feel more comfortable and open up to new delights. You never know where the journey may take you.

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One of the concerns when embarking on the journey into anal play is cleanliness. Let’s face it as erotic as anal sex is, no one wants to find mud on their hood when they pull out. Often times, this fear or surviving the embarrassment of one bad experience can be enough to detour people from anal sex.

However, with a bit of preparation, there are a few things that can be done to ensure that your anal sex is nothing but good clean fun.

Digestive Health

A diet that’s high in natural fiber (not over processed fibers) and staying hydrated is the number one thing that you can do for digestive tract health. Fiber will cause the feces in your bowels to bind together and come out as a formed solid and drinking the proper amount of water will help things flow on a regular basis.

A quick look at how the digestive track works.

The food that you eat passes through the stomach and into the small intestines. Here nutrients are absorbed into the body. Next it passes into the large intestines where the fluid and remaining nutrients are absorbed into the body. It’s at the bottom of the large intestines where the feces is held until a build up is detected by the nerves which then single the brain that it’s time to expel the feces. The last section is the rectum, which is approximately eight inches long. It’s a common myth that this is the area where feces are held until evacuating. However, in normal circumstances, the rectum is only a passage way out. Typically, people who have normal bowel movements don’t need to worry about internal cleanliness. A simple through washing of the outer anal area is all that’s needed before your play time.

For those who’s bowels are not fully formed, a few little bits may remain in the rectum after defecating. For these situations, anal douching is effective to clean everything out.

Anal Douching

For those who desire a bit more reassurance, anal douching remains the most popular option.

However, there’s great debate over the safety of anal douching. Many experts say that douching washes away much of the protective mucous lining of your rectum, leaving you open to infections. Also, anal douches can irritate or cause small tiny cuts in your anus making you more susceptible to infections. In addition, over use of enemas/douches can interfere with the normal workings of your bowels and possibly lead to your bowels being dependent upon laxatives to function correctly. Most importantly, water is absorbed through bowels and a sudden overload can increase blood volume. This can cause problems for those who suffer from heart or kidney diseases; including heart arrhythmia. Therefore, if you’re not in good health it’s always best to consult your physician before anal douching.

Although there are health concerns, when using anal douches in moderation, it’s believed by many to be the best option to have an overall hygienic anal experience.

How to Anal Douche

The goal of anal douching is to clean the walls of the rectum, not prompt you to have a bowel movement. Therefore, it’s best not to use enemas which contain laxatives or other medications. For anal douching only lukewarm water is needed. Also, a strong force of water or over filling the rectum with water may cause you to have a bowel movement if the water reaches the lower large intestine. When anal douching, only approximately four to eight ounces of water at a time is needed to rinse away anything stuck to the rectal walls.

It’s always best to douche two to four hours before you play. Douching a few hours before anal sex allows your body to expel any extra water and also gives the rectum time to reproduce some of the mucus which was washed away during the rinsing.

To douche, insert the water and hold it in for about ten to twenty seconds. Then, sit on the toilet and allow the water to run back out. Remember, the goal is to simply rinse the rectum’s walls. Repeat this process until the water runs clearish, (Normally the water will never run crystal clear since the mucus lining is also being washed away). Never over douche, since this removes too much of the mucus lining and can cause health problems. I typically douche only two times a few hours before anal sex and have never experienced an embarrassing moment.

Tools To Use

Anal douches can be purchased at most local drug stores. However they are generally marketed under the name ‘rectal syringe’. These are small bulbs with a rounded tip to make insertion easier. They can also be purchased at most sex toy stores. Also, these are also available in travel size and fit in your purse. Perfect to take along on a date or a night out on the town, these allow you to clean yourself for unexpected fun.

Anal douche hoses that attach to your bathtub are also available. However with these, it’s important to make sure that you can control the force of the water flow to ensure that damage to your rectum isn’t caused by the strong force of the water. The safest design is those that work based on gravity and not water force.

An old fashioned douche bag is another option. Although these work well, be sure to only use a small amount of water at a time and to use the anal attachment. The vaginal attachment has small holes which may not do the trick.

Enemas are a convenient, inexpensive and disposable option. However, be sure that the enema you choose is saline water. Again, other types of enemas which contain laxatives or other ingredients that work with your body to alleviate constipation can cause you have a bowel movement at the wrong time; before you play.

There’s no exact science to anal douching. Also, I’m not a medical doctor. These are just some tips and tricks to help you along your anal sex journey and not intended to over ride any medical advice you’ve received. If you experience bleeding, pain or cramping please seek medical attention as this can be a signs of serious injury to your rectum.

With a bit of preparation you can enjoy anal sex without having the fear of an embarrassing moment. The trick is to find what’s right for your body. The more experience you have with anal douching you will find the combination of time and water volume that works right for you.

When you feel clean and confident, you can relax and enjoy yourself during anal sex. I’m sure your partner will also appreciated that you’ve taken the time to cleanse yourself and make him feel more at ease also.

Have fun, relax and enjoy yourself.

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In this day and age of sexual acceptance Anal Sex still remains a taboo sexual act. Although many couples thoroughly enjoy it, you don’t find many women willing to admit it. More times than not, when someone mentions Anal Sex it brings to mind gay or bisexual men, rather than something enjoyable between heterosexual couples. Yet, the truth is that more and more women are engaging in Anal Sex and loving it.

When I reveal my secret pleasure to other women, the response is generally the same, “How can you enjoy that?” and “Doesn’t it hurt?” My answer never changes, “It only hurts for a moment, but the pleasure is well worth a little cringe.”

Hubby and I have been enjoying Anal Sex regularly for a few years now. After I learned to relax and breathe when he enters my rear, I become rather addicted to it. Although I absolutely love the sensations when I feel him deep inside of me, I’ve never experienced a true anal orgasm. That is, until the other night.

That’s right, an anal orgasm isn’t just for men; women can enjoy them too.

As we all know, everyone’s body is different and experience pleasures uniquely. Yet for most women, the anus is very active during a PIV (penis in vagina) orgasm, you just might not know it. During an orgasm the sphincter muscles are clenching and relaxing, those contractions stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in both the vagina and anus and often times make your orgasm even better.

How can this be, you ask? The anus is flooded with nerve endings most of which move through the Pudendal Nerve, which is the same nerve that serves the clitoris. Further inside of the rectum, stimulation will be picked up by the same nerves that responds to stimulation of the inner vagina the cervix; the Pelvic Nerve. Stimulating these nerves can cause a deep and throbbing sensation inside both the vagina and anus. With many tiny branches of these nerves surrounding and connecting to the anus, it’s easy to see why Anal Sex is enjoyable.

If you haven’t experience an anal orgasm, extra stimulation is an excellent way to help you achieve one. While having Anal Sex, all of your erogenous zones are exposed and easy to access. Try stimulating your clit or even using a vibrator inside your vagina, since all of the nerves are connected it should help to send you into bliss. You can even enlist the help of your lover to help provide extra stimulation.

While having Anal Sex the nerves will fire and its muscles will contract acting like the vagina. However, the rectum isn’t self lubricating. Therefore, extra lubrication is needed while having Anal Sex for things to be more enjoyable.

Explore, be safe and have fun. I’m sure you’ll find yourself loving anal orgasms as much as me.

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Your lover’s bottom is a playing field just waiting to be explored. An often over looked erogenous zone, the two cheeks like to be caressed, kneaded, pinched, spanked and so much more.

On way to entice your lover into opening up to its pleasures is a sensual massage. Massaging this area floods the pelvis with fresh blood flow which enhances sexual sensations. Not only the butt cheeks, but also the hips, lower back, and inner thighs are highly erogenous zones. Massaging these areas just might lead to other back door pleasures.

When giving a sensual massage set the mood for your lover to help them relax. Dimming the lights and setting around a few candles are only a couple of the things you can do. Aromatherapy is also a wonderful touch to help your lover relax. Sandalwood is one of my personal favorites. Its aroma is soft, warm and woody without a smelling like perfume or flowery. Best of all, Sandalwood has an ago-old reputation as an aphrodisiac. Another nice touch is wrapping your lover’s bottom in a warm towel for a few minutes while you massage their shoulder and back. Lastly, don’t forget the massage oil. When using oil, remember a little goes a long way and excess oil may not taste nice latter.

There’s no right or wrong way to give a booty massage. However, there are few techniques that can help to make it more enjoyable experience.

Blushing Cheeks is a wonderful way to help loosen up tight and over worked muscles. For this technique, cup your palms on each cheek and rub in slow circular motions until the skin warms beneath your touch. Also, you can kneading and squeezing their cheeks with your whole hand. Once the muscles begin to loosen a bit, make soft fists and slowly kneed and twist them towards the center of your lover’s cheeks.

Surfboading is another technique that works well to relax tight muscles. Straddling your lover’s lower back work their booty from the top down. With lubed hands, place the heels of your palms just above your their cheeks and on either side of the spine. With firm pressure slowly glide your hands down the cheeks to the thighs. Resist the urge to go fast; slow deep strokes are more effective and stimulating.

Pray for More is also an excellent way to relax the inner cheeks and warm up your lover’s booty for play latter. For this technique place your palms together with the pinkies at the top of your lover’s butt cleavage. Slide your pinkies down for a slow ride, nestling them deep in for maximum pleasure. Then glide back up and slowly repeat. You can also add a wave like motion for extra stimulation.

Crease Rider will help to relax their lower booty muscles. Nestle your thumbs into the crease where the legs and butt meet. With firm pressure glide your thumbs in small circular motions. Slowly widen the circle and press deeper as you run your thumbs back and forth across the crease.

After your lover relaxes, you can move onto more concentrated A-spot massage.

Taint Treat, is a nice way to warm their tight button up. For this type of massage spread your lover’s legs wide and place your finger tips on your lover’s taint. Next, slowly and gently move your fingertips in small circles, applying only light pressure as you advance up.

All Thumbs is also a fun and effective. For this, gently place both thumbs deep between your lover’s cheeks on either side of their A-spot. With soft pressure slowly glide your thumbs up and outward. Repeat as you moving down slightly each time until you reach the taint. Repeat the process from the top again.

There are even a few techniques for direct A-spot massage.

Thumb Roller is one of Hubby’s personal favorites. With both thumbs directly on the A-spot stroke up and down as you lift the thumbs in a twiddling motion. This stimulates the outer anal rim as you slowly glide your thumbs across it. Another fun technique is the Butt Buffer. Use one lubed finger to slowly glide back and forth across your lover’s tight hole in a windshield wiper motion. Light pressure can be applied as they relax underneath erotic sensations.

No matter how you choose to massage your lover’s booty, one thing’s for sure, it’s a great way open your lover up to back door pleasures. Take your time, help them relax and before you know it their booty will be yearning to feel more.

Do you have an erotic way to massage your lover or a something special that to warm them up? Don’t keep it a secret, share your kinky thoughts bellow.

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What do we know?

The G-spot was named after Ernst Grafenberg. A medical doctor and scientist known for developing the IUD. He was also well known on his studies for the urethra’s role during orgasm. Grafenberg was a gynecologist in Berlin up until Nazi Germany took over. As Grafenberg was Jewish; he was arrested in 1937 and forced to leave his practice. He wasn’t freed until 1940. Then he moved to New York City to continue practicing medicine.

A Dutch doctor, Reginer de Graaf, was the first to talk about female ejaculation and refer to “an erogenous zone in the vagina” that he linked to being similar to the male prostrate. The “zone” wasn’t reported until Grafenberg and the term G-spot was later used to describe this zone.

The G-spot is said to be the bean-shaped area inside the vagina. Typically, found one to three inches inside along the frontal wall, lining with the urethra and bladder. Some believe that the G-spot is an extension to the clitoris. However, there is no evidence to prove one way or the other.

How can I find mine?

If you haven’t found yours, but have been trying to; chances are you are trying to hard. It’s not hard to find. It’s hard to stimulate.

    • Squat on the ground so you can easily insert your fingers.
    • Face your palm upright
    • Dig around
    • Do you feel a patch of skin that feels different from the rest on the frontal wall?

That is your G-spot!! Really and truly, that is your G-spot! As I said, it’s not hard to find. It’s hard to stimulate.

How do I stimulate mine to have vaginal orgasms?

No two vaginas are alike. So, I might be able to rub lightly with my fingers to orgasm, but you might have to have firm, direct stimulation to orgasm. Have fun with this experience. Don’t get frustrated because if you can’t relax; orgasms aren’t going to be easy. It’s a learning experience that takes time.

I recommend getting a reliable G-spot vibrator or dildo. If you don’t like the idea or inserting dildos or vibrators inside you; fingers can work. However, expect hand cramps and frustration. Dildos and vibrators are there as an aid to help masturbation and orgasms. They will improve your sex life! You will want to focus the object on the G-spot. Move it around until you find that spot. Trust me; you’ll know it when you touch it. Just like the spot on your clit.

Remember: the vibrator was originally invented because doctors were treating hysteria with orgasms manually, but needed a faster method.

When I masturbate solely with my fingers, it takes me a good 45 minutes to achieve orgasm. When I use a toy, depending on the toy, it can take less than 10 minutes. Trust me, if you want to orgasm; you want a sex toy!

When first starting out with G-spot stimulation, my favorite item was the Sasha Grey Swell wand. Not curved. Very light wavy texture. And inexpensive. I did find I had to angle the dildo upright just slightly, but it was the first time I was able to stimulate my G-spot with a toy.

I really want to Squirt. Can I learn how?

Squirting is something that takes time! I didn’t learn to squirt until after learning to stimulate my g-spot so well that it happened on accident. However, most women can’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation. If you can’t orgasm with just vaginal stimulation; combine it with clitoral stimulation. Don’t worry about achieving ejaculation. When it happened to me, I wasn’t trying for it or expecting it to happen at all. Don’t expect it to happen at all and/or every time. Ejaculation is something that not all women experience. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you or your partner. It just means you haven’t achieved ejaculation. Give yourself time! Relax and stop stressing over it. Otherwise you will never get there.

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